Sensual Massage

1. Candles
2. Romantic CDs
3. Clean towels
4. Clean flat sheet
5. Massage oil

Before You Begin Sensual Massage
Before you start rubbing your partner, take a moment to set the mood:

1. Lock the door and turn off your cell phone. You want quiet.
2. Prepare your massage surface, whether it's a professional massage table or a bed. Provide rolled towels for a neck and knee rest.
3. Since massage oils stain most fabrics, spread an old (but clean!) flat sheet over your massage surface.
4. Illuminate the room with sensual lighting. Turn off glaring overhead lights and drape sheer fabric over floor lamps. Light candles.
5. Make sure the room smells good: use scented candles, incense or room freshener.
6. Keep cool water nearby for quick hydration.
7. Put a couple of CDs into the changer so you don't have to stop and put on a new CD.
8. Both of you should take a shower, shave and trim your nails.

Communication for Sensual Massage
Talk to your partner about your upcoming experience. Make sure he or she understands the difference between traditional and sensual massage -- if she's expecting the former, an sensual massage might be quite unwelcome!

Connect
Start by connecting with your partner. This will vary from couple to couple, so follow your instincts. You might kiss his or her face, lightly touch his or her body, or gaze into one another's eyes. When you both feel connected, invite your partner to lie face down on the massage table or bed, and arrange pillows and towels to his or her liking.

Sensual Massage
Begin by lightly stroking your partner's body with the tips of your fingers. Start with the back, and then move to the shoulders, arms, buttocks, thighs and calves. Remember to use only light, teasing strokes. When you sense that your partner is relaxed (you might have to ask), you are ready to progress to massage.

1. Pour about two tablespoons of massage oil into the palm of your hand, and rub your hands together lightly. When the oil is warm and evenly distributed, begin massaging your partner's back with long, deep strokes.
2. At the beginning, communicate frequently with your partner to determine if the strokes are too hard or too soft. Keep your hands in contact with your partner at all times, take your time with each rhythmic-yet-sensitive stroke, and proceed from long, gliding strokes to shorter, deeper strokes.
3. Use your body weight rather than your arm strength for deep strokes; during gliding strokes, keep your knees slightly bent and fluid, and don't lean over the table.
4. Once you have developed a rhythm that pleases both of you, move on to the shoulders and arms, and progress to the legs and feet, brushing the buttocks as you move up and down your partner's body.
5. Ask your partner to turn over. Begin massaging the chest, arms and hands. Pay special attention to your female partner's breasts: don't be too invasive at this stage, but don't ignore them. Lightly stroke the nipps and undersides.
6. Glide down to the legs, brushing the genitals on your way down. After finishing the fronts of the legs and feet, glide back up and slowly brush over the genitals. Tease your partner by brushing his or her inner thighs near the genitals, and very lightly touching the pubic region.
7. Allow the sensual energy to build until it seems like a natural time to start shifting the focus to more explicitly other activities.

Genital Massage
Look into your partner's eyes as you begin touching his or her genitals. Make sure the rapport you built at the beginning of the massage still exists; if it does not, try to reestablish it by slowing down and asking your partner a few questions about what he or she is experiencing. As you proceed with genital massage, remember to use your free hand to tease the rest of your partner's body.

Female Genital Massage
Start by gently rubbing the entire vulva, follow with clitoral stimulation, and finish with internal and clitoral stimulation -- don't forget the G-Spot! Remember that vaginal penetration usually doesn't feel good unless she is already in a fairly high state of arousal. If your partner is comfortable, feel free to use a vibrator to assist you in the massage.

Male Genital Massage
Begin by applying some lubricant to the palm of your hands and rubbing it gently into the penis and testicles. Male genital massage is guided by one main principle: slow down and stop or change what you are doing just before ejaculation becomes inevitable. Ask your partner to let you know if he is about to ejaculate, or develop a signal – verbal cues, raising a hand, pulling away slightly, or even subtle body language cues can all work well. It's usually best to vary strokes at the beginning, and then concentrate on one or two kinds of strokes as the massage nears completion. By bringing your lover to the peak without allowing him to ejaculate, you prolong the massage and help your lover have a more intense orgasm.

Hold Each Other
After the massaging is finished and you are both relaxed, remember to spend some time together before falling asleep or running out the door. You have both just shared an extremely intimate experience. Hold each other, talk to each other, and enjoy the intimacy as long as you can. Be positive about the experience, especially if it was your first time. Remember, practice makes perfect!

In preparing for a sensual massage endeavor, consider the following pointers:

1. A great prelude to your sensual massage session is a luxurious bubble bath or shower (for one or two!). Remember, the goal here is to relax away any stresses and prepare the body and mind for a sensual awakening.
2. Consciously program your body to be totally open to all senses and to receive each fully. (Also, note that the ideal is to switch roles from "giver" to "receiver" after about 30 minutes of indulging.)
3. To enhance the overall experience, use aromatherapy products such as candles, lotions, oils...etc.
4. Add some soft, relaxing music to the background. Choose something that won't distract from the desired mood.
5. Consider your location. Since massage tables are not practical in most homes, a bed, couch, or even the floor are all acceptable locales...but don't discount the outdoor options either. Poolside, the lawn, or a lounge chair all hold possibilities, as well.
6. As far as what to wear, less is definitely more. Ideally anything loose, comfortable, soft and easily removable would be optimal. A basic sheet, towel, blanket, or robe would be simply perfect.